I was really surprised yesterday when I received a message from Skad. He asked me to call him, and so I obliged. It has been quite a while since we had a converstaion. How-are-yous and what-has-beens have been uttered until we came to the point of talking about what made us connected or the person which serves as our common denominator [Kiko].
With every relationship, there is always the anxiety of whether it will last long or be cut short by unpleasant circumstances or unwanted events. People go through varied breakups and anguish of a lost love. Though unfavorable in itself, the degree of each happening is diverse. It can be amicable or it can be rough for individuals involved. Regardless of how each relationship ends, no one certainly wants to go through such phase. Getting over a lost love is dealt with differently by various people. There are those who are strong enough to face the pain, while others beg for strength to cope. Nevertheless, to get over a lost love, you must learn to comprehend and accept all that had happened.
It was a relief that finally, he’s emotionally stable and can just smile about the things that happened. It’s quite encouraging how he can now look back in his lost relationship and examine closely what happened and why they happened. I just like what I usually say, do not entirely blame yourself for what happened. It may not be completely your fault or was never really your fault. By really thinking of all the reasons why it all ended will help you fully understand that it definitely takes two individuals to build a relationship. Yet at times, one antagonistic person is enough to destroy and end it.
It’s funny how your “supposedly committed” couple-friends end up “pursuing” each other’s partner. And then there will be the issue of trust, infidelity, betrayal and selfishness. It is essential for you to take the time to identify which area or areas in your past relationship that you failed or somehow contributed to its demise to aid you in your future relationship for you to avoid the same missteps.
Accepting the pain of a lost love will help you recover more easily rather than not facing the painful truth. Cry if you feel like it. Getting over a lost love does not go by without shedding tears, feeling hurt and alone and sometimes, it even feels like you messed up. Accept your share of mistakes in the relationship. Taking such responsibility is healthy, but also keep in mind that you are a great person who is worthy to be loved. Denial is also natural but acceptance will better help you recover and move on.
I’ll be seeing him this weekend and I know there will be more stories to tell. For now I’ll just be happy for having another friend “getting over” the dillema of breaking up.
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