Edward, our shift manager and a friend announced that he just got out of a 5 year relationship. We talked about our attitude towards relationship and up to what extent we can allow ourself to do. he’s the I’ll-give-you-all type while I remained to be the paranoid and NSA type of guy.
I enjoy my life and does not even consider or not seeing myself into a relationship in the coming days. Each has his own stand or words to say about being single. One in particular stands out everyday: sad being single. Of course I have no idea who the people are typing those three timid little words. I don’t know if they are male or female. What race they are. But none of that matters of course. I have the same message: Don’t be. Another one that comes up is a variation of being recently single after a relationship split.
The benefits of being single may not outweigh the benefits of being in a relationship for you personally, but put things in perspective. Now it’s just you. You don’t have to answer to someone else when you want to go out and do things without the other person — oh like boys’ night out, a boy’s frolic to a the local strip joint, a quick road trip, etc. I’m being slightly tongue in cheek on at least one of those suggestions. Bottom line: Claim your freedom! I’m not insensitive enough to say “get over it.” That’s unrealistic. You deserve the right to be broken up about being broken up. Have your moment. Then get past it. Yep, this is all advice and I know my disclaimer says this isn’t an advice blog. It isn’t. But I hope it’s a haven for everyone who feels upset, sad, disappointed about becoming single or still being single.
He or she will come along with so many other good things so just enjoy the time you have now.Reevaluate. Look at this as a time to reflect. Yep, that sounds sappy. But just do it. Reflect with a glass of wine if you must. Reflect with the pictures you have with friends. Write a blog. Whatever gets you focused. I like a combo of all three myself. Er, maybe not that first one…
Exercise realistic optimism: Once you are over being in the dumps, see this as an opportunity for a chance to start again but realize that you need to always be prepared to be alone. Share your day with another person who is single. The stories alone should brighten your outlook. There is always something to laugh about — trust me.
All of these suggestions are also good for those who are sad being single, still. But really, there’s nothing to be sad about. Embark in new things you could never experience with another person. Just reevaluate.
Singles out there, I’m single. Fiery hot!
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